Katelyn

It was my (now ex) husband's birthday. We spent the evening at a restaurant with our 2 small children celebrating. We came home, put the kids to bed and it took me awhile to get my 6 month old to sleep. I came out of her room and told my husband I was going to bed because I was exhausted. I get a text from him that says:

Ex: "I understand what's going on but it's still my birthday" (referring to the sexual coercion I have already discussed with him being the reason I don't want to have sex with him)

Me: Sex is not a given just because it's your birthday

Ex: Best Birthday ever thanks for everything (sarcasm)

Sad that I have to wish for sex from my wife for my birthday

Thats all I wanted, a wife who loves me and would want to have sex and make her husband happy on his birthday and make it a great birthday and didn't even get that.

Me:

Him: That's all the response I get

Me: yes

Him: Why?

Me: because I'm just going to say the same things I have already said a million times and I am tired of it

Him: why did you not give me a great birthday why do you not love me

I get nothing on my BIRTHDAY it's once a year

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