For some reason threatening me to a life with cats (or a dog) and wine is super popular!
The Wall
A collection of comments from Tiktok trolls and other antagonists
Please do not harass any of these people. This is for entertainment and educational purposes only. If I find out you are abusing them back, I will block you.
This comment was memorable because when I reported it to Tiktok, they found no violation. But my response to him, which was simply, “FU” was found in violation and I was banned from commenting for 3 days.
This is quite typical for Tiktok. It’s a common experience for women that when violence is reported, Tiktok finds nothing wrong with it, but any unkind word to a man is found in violation and men like Jeff Addington are free to harass women.
Accountability
Very often, men feel convicted by the content I put out and feel a desperate need to fight back against the accusation coming at them, and they try to make it my fault, or as my ex did, turn to weaponized misery to say, “I guess it’s all my fault, I’m just a terrible husband.”
Insufferable Narcissist
Every day a man calls me a narcissist. It’s how I first heard the term. It’s something they say to and about women who try to take control of themselves away from these men.
It’s commonplace now and I’m no longer offended or hurt by it. But it does give me immediate insight into who this person is and how they will handle the rest of the conversation.
These are the men who can’t be swayed to love a woman in any genuine capacity. These are men who only want her to be pliable and obedient.
This is a screenshot of the original conversation that led to this video about sexual health. We think of sexual health from science class as largely reproductive, but what I’m attempting to do is shift the conversation to the health of our arousal center and the psychological safety that makes us truly healthy in all areas of our sexuality.
Cats & Wine
Cheating & Abandonment
Extremely common for these men is to tell me he is justified in cheating or leaving if he has caused her to no longer be aroused, rather than work with her to foster a deeply intimate connection.
Compatibility
Most often people mistake this as a compatibility issue. We just didn’t mesh well in the bedroom. Sometimes men cling to this idea to avoid the reality that they themselves have coerced someone.
Lesbian
One of the more comical comments are the ones telling me I’m a lesbian, or I should be.
Financial Abusers
Common for these men is to equate their objectification of their wives with the belief that they themselves find their value in their paycheck and whatever tangible items they can contribute to a relationship. This is the more pitiful of comments as they truly cannot see themselves as worthy of more. And so in turn they make money the thing they hold over her head to make her "put out". Any sign of decline in bedroom activities and they threaten financial retaliation.
Stay Single, Don’t Get Married, or Just Leave
One of the more common themes in the comments is that when a man has turned a woman off she should leave the relationship, abandon her husband, or better yet, save him the trouble and just not get married at all, better to stay single. Most women who’ve been coerced seem to agree single is safer.
What about him?
In other words, “What about me and my needs?” This is what coercive husbands around the world say to shame their wives into unwanted sex. When they aren’t capable or willing to foster real intimacy, they use guilt trips to manipulate her into fulfilling his “needs” against her will.
Trolling at the Park
This video was reported for “bullying and harassment” and then restored with “no violation found”. This is what they do. We’re having a conversation and they barge in with opinions and try to have the conversation derailed when we don’t comply with their demands. When one man can get a group of women thrown out of a park because he doesn’t like them talking about men, that’s the patriarchy.
Average Insults
When I say I've heard it all, I've heard it AAALLLLL.
